Talking Shop

Pink Think: “Being around people with whom you feel a connection, on many levels, not just a professional one, is very relaxing.” – Jacqueline Bisset

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After 18 years of marriage, my husband still manages to surprise me. Sure, he always orders cheese enchiladas no fail at our local Mexican favorite. And the server at the Chinese restaurant usually asks him, “The usual?”

But then, there’s the time I came home from vacation and he had gone out and bought a new dining room set (which fortunately I loved). And that time when he told me nonchalantly that he had been looking into donating a kidney (which he did).

And then there was last night. He told me he sent a query to an agent about a middle-grade novel he had written about a decade ago. After I picked up my jaw off the floor, I felt some interesting emotions. I was excited for him! I was amazed. And a little out of sorts.

My husband, querying? I’ve known about his novel for a while. It’s awesome, but…

Over the years, we’ve kept the lines drawn. He does his veterinary career and sled-dog races and off-roading, while I do my writing and music. I have my groups, and he has his groups. Works well that way. He doesn’t need to get an earful of my most recent plot crisis, and I don’t have to walk the rest of the dirt road while he navigates a wicked pothole. Our different interests recharge us individuals and make us a stronger couple.

But now.

He said it’s taken him this long because he’s worried I wouldn’t like it if he gets agented first. He’s afraid I’ll be jealous.

I must admit, after he told me his news, I felt like speeding up on my own projects, so I can be querying again. And yes, the competitive person in me hopes I can beat him. Extra motivation, if you will. I’ve also teased him that he’ll have to look into getting his own blog, something he’s been resisting for years.

Now, we can talk shop. How cool is that? We’re in for some interesting times.

How about YOU? Do you and your significant other share the same profession/interests? How well does that work out? And if you don’t share the same profession/interests, how do you still keep connected?